Keneng Mathias' Blog

The Root Cause of Stammering (and How to Overcome It) Understand the root cause of stuttering so that you can uproot it. The root cause of stuttering is fear. Not speaking fast, not anxiety, not self-consciousness, not tension—fear. People have wrongly speculated the cause of stammering for decades. They’ve guessed everything but the truth. I’ve stammered for 20 years, since I was a child. I didn’t know how it came, but it came. However, I wasn’t just suffering from it—I was studying it. As a boy, I was helpless, I wished it'll go away, it didn't. I had no understanding of what I was experiencing neither did my mother, she wanted to help but she couldn't. Then as I grow, I started finding ways to stop stammering. I tried everything people told me, it didn't work. I read every book I could find on stuttering, and I tried all their many tricks and rules, they didn't work. Stuttering has never been, and can not be cured by tricks, only by understanding the trut...

"Real self-respect is seeing yourself the same even when dressed in your best and worst."  —Keneng Mathias Almost everything you've read on the internet about building self-confidence is false. It's a tough claim but let me justify. How many times have you read blog posts selling you ideas to become confident: make strong eye contact while speaking, stand upright, speak louder, etcetera. The truth is those are emblems of self-confidence, not the cause. They are but proofs that confidence is here, not the real thing. Real confidence is within, the fruits are those signs you see outside. It happens from inward, outward. Not the other way round. It's like a man who has an apple tree and a mango tree in his yard, unfortunately he doesn't like mangoes. So he prunes all the mango fruits from the tree, then glued apple fruits to his mango tree; and expects it to start producing apples. Won't you call him insane, who behaved like that? You will. Unfortunately many...